Conscious Parenting: Does Your Child Have Empowering Beliefs?

By Adam Khoo

All children see the world in a different dimension. Their mindset affects how they filter and perceive the experiences they have. Some kids and teens have a mindset that allows them to consistently perceive their experiences in a positive and empowering way.

For example, if they make a mistake in class, they perceive it as a valuable lesson that can allow them to improve. If they get a very tough assignment, they see it as a way to get them better prepared for a tough examination.

However, some kids tend to have a mindset that constantly cause them to perceive and respond to experiences in a very negative and dis-empowering manner. When these students make a mistake, they perceive themselves as being really ‘stupid’ or ‘dumb’ or as a ‘major embarrassment.’

Many people think that events that happen to a person directly affect his outcome or result. This is why some kids often say, “having a boring teacher caused me to do badly in my exams,” “my unsupportive parents have made me a failure” or “because I was born poor, I never had the opportunities others had to succeed.”

In actual fact, it is not the event that affects a person’s outcome. It is how they CHOOSE to respond to the event that affects their outcome. For example, if a child is born into a poor family and he chooses to respond to it by thinking, “this means that I have less opportunities to succeed” or “I am so unlucky,” chances are he will feel demoralized and decide to lead life in a half-hearted manner. The outcome would of course be negative.

However, if the child has an empowering mindset and responds by saying, “Being born in a poor family means that I must work harder than other people to succeed’ and “I have nothing to lose,” he will have the hunger to do his best and increase his chance to become successful!

The most important quality that high achieving kids have in common is a very strong sense of belief in oneself or, put simply, ‘Self-Belief ‘. They believe that they can and deserve to achieve great results in life.

This self-belief is what drives them to set high standards for themselves. And when faced with setbacks or failures, their faith in their own abilities prevent them from giving up. Their self-belief pushes them to pick themselves up and to strive until they succeed.

On the other hand, underachievers share a lack of self-belief or have dis-empowering beliefs that stop them from giving their best. Many of them believe that they are not good enough or that they don’t have what it takes to succeed. Even before attempting a challenge, they tell themselves that it is impossible.

All of our children have very different sets of beliefs. Whenever we ask students in my seminars, “How many of you believe that learning is fun?” and “How many of you think learning is boring?” inevitably, different hands go up when the two questions are asked.

In the same vein, some students believe that Mathematics is easy while others believe Mathematics is difficult. Some students believe that they can achieve straight ‘A’s if they work hard, others believe that they will fail even if they studied.

Do your kids have empowering beliefs or negative beliefs?

What beliefs do your children have about learning, about success, about school, and most importantly about themselves? Do they have empowering beliefs or negative beliefs? Do their beliefs make a big impact on their behaviors and results?

If your kids believe that school is ‘stupid and boring’, then they will probably close their mind and won’t bother to fully participate and learn. When they don’t learn and start failing, of course school will become boring to them.

However, when a child believes that school is fun, then he will tend to participate more and learn eagerly. By learning well and getting good results, school will indeed become fun! In other words, their beliefs become self fulfilling prophecies.

With the right approach and communication strategies, you will be amazed to find that any under-performing, unmotivated child can unleash his full potential and transform into a top achiever instantly.

© Adam Khoo is a best seller author and peak performance trainer, and co author Gray Lee, a certified Neuro-Linguistic Programming™ (NLP) trainer and an MBTITM accredited facilitator. They will help you understand why children behave the way they do and transform the way you communicate with your children in their new ebook “Nurturing the Winner & Genius in Your Child”.

Additional Resources:

• Mini-Me Syndrome: No-Limits Kids – Unlock the door to a life of limitless possibilities for your children! Teach them to realize their unique value, feel honored for who they are, maintain a positive mindset, have the confidence to reach for their dreams and achieve them. Your children will be able to live the life they were born to create without limiting beliefs interfering with what they truly want.
• The Inspired Parenting Course – Leading-edge parenting tools from the world’s most respected thought leaders and Law of Attraction teachers. Go deep into the exact practices and techniques that parents can use to help children and teenagers overcome challenges, find their purpose and live a happy, thriving life.
• Free Ebook: The 7 Secrets of Sharing The Law of Attraction With Kids and Teens – Discover life-changing techniques that will bring even more love and joy to your family and learn the secrets to making a profound difference with your kids right now.

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