How To Teach Children Discipline At Home And School
Discipline is important, whether you are teaching kids to be disciplined at home or at school. Not all people are capable of self-discipline, even adults find it difficult!
Discipline needs to be taught during a child’s early growth stages, to help them develop positive attitudes and prepare them in handling school, work and other social activities.
• Discipline At Home
Before children would even reach school or play with other kids, the firs social interaction that children would have would be with the parents. Parents play a crucial role in preparing their children for social interaction with their peers and elders.
Most parents would think that discipline is more of punishment. Actually, it is more about teaching your kids to identify what is right from wrong and how wrong choices could put them into bad situations.
When teaching kids about discipline, consistency is the key. If you give in to what they want once they start crying, they will repeat it again.
But if they see that you are firm and consistent, they will learn that crying and throwing tantrums will not get what they want. Inconsistency with your punishment and rules will make children misbehave more.
If your kids are throwing tantrums, stay calm. The reason why they are throwing tantrums is because they want to get your attention. If you fuss or yell at them, it is still attention and it is more likely that they would repeat it in the future.
Too much of anything is never good. Too much criticism can have an impact on how your child would view themselves. Too much praise will make your comments less effective. Positive reinforcement is also important.
When commenting on your child’s behaviour, use positive and encouraging words. Set a good example. As parents, the people they would usually see is you. They are likely to follow what you do and if you also abide with your own rules.
• Discipline In School
Classroom discipline is another thing that most teachers dread, especially new ones. Teachers have to deal with children that have different temperaments. Having a diverse group could sometimes put teachers in the edge of their sanity.
Before school year starts, you need to have a solid discipline plan. On the first day, the first thing that you should do is discuss the classroom rules.
You could discuss it just like how you discuss academic topics. You could even include it in your syllabus. This would help minimize any kind of disruptive behaviour in class.
To earn your students’ respect, then be fair. You have to be conscious when making decisions. So, even if it is your best student that makes a rule violation, then give the corresponding punishment or consequence for their action.
If your students get to be confrontational, they try to avoid banging heads with them in front of the other students. You do not want to “humiliate” your student in front of their classmates. You can pull them outside after class or while others are busy with their exercise and talk to them, calmly.
Just like home discipline, consistency is important. Make sure that the rules are followed every day. If not, the students will think it’s easy to get away with misbehaviour. But do not bring the grudge until the next day.
For example, a student did something wrong yesterday do not expect that they would do the same the next day. Give them a chance. But for example, they did the same thing for consecutive days, then consider having a talk with the child. A deeper issue may be bothering them.
Teaching discipline is among the hardest thing to do. Your child’s attitude as an adult will depend on how they learn discipline early in their lives. It may be difficult, but for me the most effective method of teaching discipline is becoming a good role model yourself.
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